The Star

Star types make for fun partners — their love of being active, engaged, and passionate comes out full force when in a romantic relationship. They tend to be very physical partners who are equal parts sexual and considerate. Their natural high energy means that they need to move quickly in relationships; they are not willing to take relationships slow and may struggle if they have a partner who requires that.

Honest, present, and genuine, they will always want to hear the truth from their partners. However, Star types are ultimately people pleasers: they tend to pick their battles out of a fear of conflict, which they always aim to avoid. In fact, sometimes the Star can be so conflict-avoidant that they'll choose to end a relationship rather than working through its issues. That said, once an ESFP learns to address this tendency, they can move through challenges with their partners from a place of love, consideration, and kindness.

ESFPs work best in group settings where they feel accepted and are able to socialize. They appreciate a workplace with a looser schedule, as they love to manage their own time and dislike feeling micromanaged. ESFPs are versatile workers who can excel in many different areas, so long as their work captures their interest. If they are passionate about their work, they bring contagious energy to their job. When this passion is lacking, however, ESFPs struggle to focus, and instead may prioritize social activities.

ESFPs often find success as artists and actors, or in teaching, social work, and athletics, among other careers. While their confidence often makes them competent and successful employees, it can sometimes be a drawback, as ESFPs struggle to ask for assistance. They also tend to favor gut instinct over facts when making decisions, and can therefore sometimes act rashly. ESFPs genuinely care about the good of the group, and are excellent at motivating their coworkers. Their desire to avoid conflict, however, means that they may struggle to share their own opinions, and can at times defer to group think.

Stars are highly concerned with the world around them and often forget to turn their attention inwards. They struggle with a fear of missing out regardless of the significance of an event, and are willing to sacrifice their own personal health to avoid this.

The Star's high-energy means that they can become easily bored, even in times when focus is required. Occasionally, they can abandon tasks and hobbies, and may find it difficult to excel in certain learning environments as a result. Because of their deep love of socializing, ESFPs are sometimes accused of being self-centered or irresponsible, as they'd rather be social than attend to their responsibilities.

Unhealthy Adaptations

• Have difficulty saying no to plans and prioritizing self-care
• Feeling immense anxiety when they don’t attend a social function or if they feel excluded
• Struggling to implement long-term plans for themselves and focusing intently on the day-to-day
• Appearing and acting bored in important situations, such as in the workplace or at family functions
• Prioritizing their own enjoyment at the cost of completing necessary tasks

As in every aspect of their lives, ESFPs in leadership positions bring a ton of positive energy to the job. They love leading by example and setting the tone for their group members — to an ESFP, the best way to keep a team motivated is to keep energy high and work fun. Empathetic at the core, the ESFP easily senses if a team member is struggling, and will intervene to offer assistance and guidance.

ESFPs always like to encourage members to share opinions and be involved in large decisions. However, as this type needs to feel they are essential to the team, they may struggle if their opinions and decisions aren’t respected or well-liked. This is a double-edged sword, as ESFPs often need to lean on others to focus on more long term ideas. When ESFPs can learn to plan for the long-term, they are highly effective, likeable leaders who help develop their team members and motivate those around them to meet their goals.

ESFPs feel their best when they are spending time with many people they love. They enjoy constant socializing, and thrive when they are the center of attention. That doesn’t necessarily mean they are always commanding the room; ESFPs are also happy offering advice or encouraging others. They find joy in making sure others are having just as much fun as they are, and love to help people out of a slump so that everyone dear to them can enjoy life with the same passion and velocity they feel.

Healthy Adaptations

• Finding and creating a vast, diverse social circle filled with high energy, caring individuals
• Co-creating plans with others where all parties are contributing to fun adventures, getaways, and other events
• Adapting easily to new situations while finding healthy ways to stave off boredom in more familiar circumstances
• Expressing their own personal style and identity through strong visual aesthetics
• Ensuring to focus on high priority tasks and not letting distractions pull them away from essential duties
• Finding actionable ways to help others they care about in a consensual, boundaried manner

Star types are passionate and highly sociable, and have seemingly boundless energy. They are highly in tune with those around them, and are usually the first to notice if someone has a change of mood or mannerisms. Stars are empathetic and are always willing to help others; they genuinely want to use their powers for good. Confident and with a strong belief in their own abilities, this type comes across as capable and deliberate in almost every situation.

• Sociable, excellent conversationalists who are often integral members within their social circles
• Skilled at learning quickly through action and thinking rationally under pressure
• Perceiving changes in the world around them and always ready to devote time to address them
• Strong sense of personal style and aesthetics, feel little need to hide who they truly are
• Thinking through their own methods and processes to challenge tradition