Dominating
Assertive, direct, and confident. Seeks power and group influence.
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Dominant people are direct and blunt. They prefer fast-paced environments, and have the ability to speak without hesitation, which gives them a sense of confidence in social settings.
They’re not shy about sharing their point of view, which can make them the more dominant voice in a given setting. Because they can shift from topic to topic and command the room with ease and are often looked to when there’s a decision to be made.
Since this assertiveness is combined with their desire for power and group influence, they're likely to be good leaders.
In love these people may be overpowering, depending on who they're matched with. Those who score high on Modesty, for instance, will have a difficult time coming into their own around them. There also may be friction between those with similar assertiveness levels, as sometimes the assertive articulation of thoughts and feelings may overpower the desire to learn and share in mutuality.
These people should be aware of how they wield this power. It is a power. People like deferring to those who are confident and aggressive—it feels safe and true, like they are being parented. But just because these people are powerful does not mean they're always right, and exerting power that is not carefully considered is a very dangerous thing. They should try things like adding “I feel” or “I believe” or “it seems to me” before their statements to let others know that they're not an ultimate authority but a subjective thinker offering up their subjective point of view at a given moment in time.
Because of their dominance and confidence, these people likely find themselves in leadership roles at work. Others may look to them for guidance and or rousing speeches as they are less likely to be timid about taking on such a role, and offer steady, confident, and maybe even aggressive vocalization. This comes across as strong to many and so, will likely result in others deferring power to them.
Dominant communicators are direct and confident. When there's a decision to be made, they appreciate fast-paced conversation and getting to the point. In more general conversation, they shift from topic to topic with ease.
As mentioned in love, your assertiveness may get in the way of two things: 1. Others' ability to safely and freely communicate in your presence, and 2. Your ability to learn and understand through open and receptive listening. You may feel called to express and speak up, but unless mitigated, speaking up may serve to distort the issue more than clarify it, as you may not leave space for the diversity of views and the flexibility of learning that comes with calm listening.