Fun-seeking in love

Fun-seeking in love

Quick definition

Sees love as a state of play. Driven by immediate chemistry and excitement.

Average user score

48

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Description

Daring Lovers see relationships as play—a game worth experiencing and learning from. They are drawn to new, exciting, and novel experiences in their romantic lives. These people allow themselves to be guided by their gut and may actively choose to give into temptations, even if they know better.

Related Traits

Like Romantic Idealists, high scorers place emphasis on immediate chemistry. However, whereas Romantic Idealists are driven by a fairy-tale take on romance, Daring Lovers are driven by play and experimentation. This doesn’t mean that they are not interested in long-term relationships; rather that they want a fun, casual feel to romance and likely need a partner that feels the same way.

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Pattern Components

In love, these people are playful and free. They see love as a fun game to be played and lead with their hearts over their heads, though without necessarily needing strings or attachment. They tend to have a flirtatious nature that keeps their partner on their toes and their relationships lighthearted.

Many of their relationships are casual, uncomplicated, and undemanding. They have a love of new experiences, and are most compatible with similarly high scorers in Excitement-Seeking would be a step in the right direction. High scorers may also avoid letting feelings get in the way of fun. They generally value experimentation, and tend to prefer playing the field over settling with one person.

For love to thrive for these people, it should be dynamic and flexible. Finding a partner who is not attached to a career or family that requires long hours and stability is a good idea, as the they may otherwise feel locked in and restless.

Healthy Adaptations

  • Seeking activity and stimulation through immersive, sensory experiences such as concerts, art installations, festivals, and parties
  • Approaching new experiences with vigor and interest, happy to be drawn into something that takes them out of their usual state or “comfort zone”

Caution

Relationships for these people work best with those similarly high scoring in Ludus love, and when both partners are mature, and independent. However, there is a risk that one party misinterprets Ludus love for Eros love, which like Ludus is flirtatious and passionate, but unlike Ludus seeks much greater attachment, depth, and commitment.