Anxious in love

Although their desire for intimacy and closeness makes them capable of meaningful connections, past trauma can leave them stuck in a loop of worry even when their relationship is going well.

Unlike Secure Lovers they’re not at ease in uncomfortable situations and can have trouble dealing with challenges in a romance.

Entropic Lovers are no strangers to unrequited love. Because of their anxious attachment style, if they feel a partner pulling away from them, they may have a tendency to like them more and hang on tighter, instead of letting go.

Unhealthy Adaptations

• Being drawn to people who who pull away
• Expecting your partner to adapt to your insecurity
• Projecting your anxiety onto the relationship
• Overanalyzing

Healthy Adaptations

• Being vulnerable with your partner
• Communicating how your partner can help while acknowledging that not doing so is not a failure on their part
• Understanding your partner has boundaries and needs as well

Recommendations

• Let your partner know what you’re thinking.
• It’s okay to ask for reassurance, but acknowledge that it’s not your partner’s role to adapt every behavior to your needs.
• Consciously create moments of joy for yourself and your partner. If every conversation is about what is wrong, everything will become wrong.