Stability-seeking in love

Stability-seeking in love

Quick definition

Desires stability and reliability in their relationships. Deliberate about choices in love.

Average user score

52

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Description

Anchored Lovers are more likely to approach romance more seriously than most. They're not drawn in by the game of love; playing games and skirting around issues in relationships is likely too stressful for them. Instead, when they're in a relationship, these people want to know what they can expect from the other person.

Related Traits

Unlike Chaotic Lovers, they're likely better at commitment, since they prefer certainty and like to know where they stand at all points of a relationship. They approach romance sensibly and rationally, so they’re likely to be stable in relationships and expect the same stability and commitment from potential partners.

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Pattern Components

Anchored Lovers are more interested in long-term relationships, and they're unlikely to have trouble settling down once they find their special someone. They're likely to choose a partner based on the quality of their heart, as both will work through the years to make sure the other feels loved. Although they have a tendency to overthink love at times, they're usually able to strike the right balance in a relationship.

Unlike Chaotic Lovers they don’t let their impulses drive their decisions, and are unlikely to give in to temptation. In their relationships, as in their lives, long-term rewards are more satisfying to them than instant gratification.

These people are able to cultivate long-lasting relationships, likely with other high scorers in this area, since their own moral code would make it near impossible in the long term for them to tolerate someone who doesn't share their standards. They're dependable and honest in love and this goes a long way.

Healthy Adaptations

  • Careful, thoughtful, and considerate of all angles of a given problem before trying to tackle a solution
  • Investigative rather than quickly judging and coming to a rapid solution

Unhealthy Adaptations

  • High moderation leading to being overly hesitant or restrained
  • Missing out on beautiful experiences due to lack of impulse